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8 Ideas to help a sensitive child

8 Ideas to help a sensitive child

Do you have a child who becomes upset very easily? One small comment and they are crying and emotional. My oldest child is just like this and has been seeing the guidance counselor at school to learn different coping skills. I am going to share with some ideas that have helped us and hopefully they can help you.

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Photo by Janko Ferlič on Unsplash

1. Deep Breaths

One of the best things that have helped us is to teach our daughter how to take deep breaths to help her calm down. When we start to see her getting upset we remind her to take five deep breaths and to count. After her deep breaths, she is usually still upset so we move on to our other strategies. The deep breaths help her calm down so that we can talk to her and help her decide which strategy she wants to use.

2. Personal Space

Create a space just for your child. This will be where they go when they need a break and some time to think and cool off. We decided to use the bay window in her room and to add some pillows and blankets so that it is a nice cozy place where she can go and take time where it is quiet. To help make it personal to your child you can have them help you decorate the space and give you some ideas to add. My daughter loves looking at pictures so we added a photo album full of pictures of the whole family.

3. Encourage Creativity

This can be writing, drawing, or building with blocks. The important thing is to find something they really enjoy doing. Then add that to their personal space so they can use it to help them relax. My daughter is really into drawing pictures so she has a notebook and a pencil in her personal space.

4. Books

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It is important to provide options for your child. This helps them feel like they are in control of something. Even when they feel like they can’t control their emotions at that moment they know that they can control what they do when they go to their personal space. Books are a great option to provide to your child. Whether they can read or not they are calming and it helps encourage a love for reading.

5. Sensory Items

Sensory items are a great tool to use to help your child calm down. There are some great DIY calming bottles and recipes to make slime. These are not only great items to put in your child’s personal space but they could come in handy if you are out and about they are struggling to manage their emotions.

 

6. Give them space

When your child is in their personal space cooling off it is important to let them be. They can’t process their thoughts if you constantly go in and bother them. If you are worried about them then peak in and check on them then walk right back out. They will tell you when they are ready. My daughter will go up to her room and cool off and within ten minutes she will back down ready to talk.

7. Talk to them

After they finish cooling off take that opportunity to talk to them. Ask them how they were feeling and what made them upset. Help them process through the situation. Tell them how proud you are that they used their strategies and took the time to cool off before getting really upset.

8. Talk to their teacher

If you are concerned about the way they handle their emotions then reach out to their teacher. Find out if they are also getting easily upset at school as well. Ask the teacher if there are strategies that they can use at school to help them manage their emotions. With my daughter, the teacher reached out to me about it. She made the suggestion that my daughter sees the guidance counselor and talk about different feelings. I thought this was a great idea. She also explained to me how during class she gives her breaks when she can see the emotions building up. It made me feel better that I wasn’t the only one noticing it and that the teacher wanted to help her deal with different situations appropriately.

As a parent, it can be very stressful when your child is getting upset and you can not even talk to them. When this happens remember to breathe as well. The worst thing we can do is get upset with them and make them more confused. When they are taking a break it is okay for you to go take a break too.

Teaching our children strategies helps to make them more independent and helps them manage stress better. We can’t always be there when they are struggling but we can prepare them with the skills that they need to get through it.

Comment below with different strategies your child uses to help them manage their feelings.

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Managing the Christmas List Chaos

Managing the Christmas List Chaos

When Christmas starts approaching do you have family members asking for Christmas lists for the kids? Do you forget what you told everyone to get? Well, I have struggled with the same problems for the past 5 years and it has gotten harder to manage with each kid that I had. So I decided to come up with some PDF’s to help organize the Christmas List Chaos.

Master List

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Start by creating a master list for each child. Put their name at the top of the list so that it doesn’t get confusing. I started with my oldest daughter and wrote down everything she needed or wanted. Use the gift column to put the name of the item or a short description. Then there is a column for size so that the family members know exactly what size to get them. The store column is where you can put the store or the website so that your family members can easily find the gifts. This makes their Christmas shopping easier if they know exactly where they need to go. I added a price column so that I can easily see how much each item is when I go to separate the master list.

{               } Christmas List

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This is the document that you will give to each of your family members. You can put their names in between the brackets and your child’s name under that. If it helps you out you can jot down their budget so that you can make sure that you are only putting stuff on their list that fits into their budget. I worked on the Christmas lists one child at a time. I laid out all the Christmas lists so I could see who I had and then I started going through the master list and putting the items on one of the Christmas lists.

This method helps me to make sure that I am not telling two different people to get one item. It can be hard to remember who you told what to. It may seem like a lot of papers but remember you are only keeping the master list.

Christmas List Key

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On this page, you can create a key for your master list. Put the person’s name in the Christmas List column. If you are making a list for grandma and grandpa then put their names in the first column. Then give them a number and put it in the Reference Number column. The Budget column is optional if you want to have a budget to refer back to when you are creating the Christmas lists.

Helpful Hint

Make a family list: If there are gifts that are family gifts, like a zoo pass for the whole family, you can create a family list instead of individual ones.

Here is the free PDF download

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I hope this helps you get those Christmas lists organized and avoid a bunch of unwanted or duplicate gifts. I know that the fewer toys we get the better, so I have to come up with alternatives for our family members otherwise they have no idea what to get them and then we end up with a bunch of toys.

If this was helpful or if you have some other ideas on how to organize the Christmas list chaos let me know in the comments below.

8 Ways to manage that crazy mom schedule!!!

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Let’s be real here. One of our superpowers as a mom is being able to manage everybody’s schedules. It takes a lot of time and energy to make sure that your kids are where they need to be and collaborate with your spouse to prevent needing a sitter. You feel like you are constantly problem-solving. Here are some tips to stay organized and help you tame the chaos.

1.Paper vs. Digital

The first step is to decide if you want to use a paper planner or if you want to keep it all digital. I have personally tried both and I have found it easier to use digital so that I can sync everything together and I can sync it with my husband’s phone.

There are paper planners for monthly, weekly, and dailies. You can even personalize planners to meet your own needs. If you can’t find a planner that you like there is always the option of creating a bullet journal that focuses more on the to-do list but it is completely unique to your needs.

Digital calendars are just as varied. There are a large number of apps out there for you to choose from. I personally use google calendars and the Keep app to sync all my calendars and to-do lists together. I like the portability of having it all in the palm of my hands and being able to check it at any time.

2.Color Code

I have found it so much easier to color code all of our events and tasks on my digital calendar vs my paper planner. I did not like the idea of carrying a bunch of pens or highlighters around every time I needed to add an event or task.

I have a color for each person in the family and a family color for when we have an event for the whole family. I also have our bills on our monthly calendar, so that has a color of its own as well.

By color coding, it makes it easier for me to go in and see who has what going on. My husband and I look at the calendar at the beginning of the week and decide who is going to karate and who is picking up kids from daycare based on our own schedules. By having the color coding it is easier to see who is free during the kids’ events and who is busy.

3.Keep Everything in One Place

I have found that it is much easier to keep everything together. If you use a paper planner it is much easier to keep your schedule and to-do list together in your planner then to have a planner for your schedule and a notebook for your to-do list.

If you use digital I recommend finding one that you can merge your calendar and your to-do list together. It makes it difficult when you have to go into several apps to find what you are looking for and things can easily get overlooked.

4.Check Schedule Twice a Day

A good habit to get into is to check your calendar regularly. Figure out a time that works for you each day and go through your calendar and to-do list on a regular basis. This will help to keep you from accidentally forgetting something.

I have found that if I check my calendar in the morning and in the evening I overlook things less. I am able to see what my day looks like in the morning then double check my to-do list in the evening to make sure I did not forget anything.

5.Don’t Wait to Put Things in Your Calendar

A mistake that I always make is not putting things in my calendar right away. If I do not put it in my calendar right away then something comes up and I totally forget. This is where having a digital calendar helps out because it let’s face it most of us have our phone on us over 90% of the time.

6.Keep a To-Do List & Notes

My husband makes fun of me for all the lists I make. But, if it is not on my list it does not get done. When you are trying to manage your schedule, your spouse’s schedule, and your kids’ schedule it can be difficult to keep all those tasks straight. So when you think of something that needs to get done just jot it down.

7.Plan Meals Ahead of Time

I like to look at my schedule at the beginning of the week and see which days we are really busy. Then I try to plan meals that I can prep ahead of time or plan a day that we eat out. This helps us so that we aren’t spending a bunch of money on eating out and we know what we are making ahead of time so we have the groceries and we aren’t stressing after a long day trying to figure out what to make.

8.Schedule Time for You!

This one is very important. We focus so much on everybody else and making sure they are where they need to be. As moms, we need to make sure that we are getting some TLC too. Take some time for yourself and do something you enjoy. This will help you relax and be ready to tackle your crazy schedule the next week.

If you have any more ideas or tips comment below. Let me know what works for you and what doesn’t work.